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“I am also Italian-American, so the 5 stages of grief are cavatelli, mozzarella, parmigiana, ravioli, and prosciutto.“ omg 👏👏👏 Grief *will* make you do strange things. Sending cozy things for your heart. 🩵

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Thank you!

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I'm jealous of all the woods you have nearby.

And all the bookstores.

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Yeah, I like living here. Y'all should come visit.

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Baldwin truly is a treasure beyond measure. I’ve been watching a lot of interviews with him. Just in the middle of this 1971 conversation with him and Nikki Giovanni: https://youtu.be/y4OPYp4s0tc?si=3xACbNpcY2lFHGBp

Grief rituals matter. I’ve been thinking about this recently. My son is coming up on a big birthday, and my grandmother died two days before he was born. Because of the circumstances of his birth, I was barely conscious of her passing, and feel like I never got to truly grieving her. My sisters and I have talked about how to find the rituals we couldn’t have at the time. Yours are inspiring. Hugs to you.

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I think it was watching clips of Baldwin being interviewed was what made me want to read him. Similarly, I never got to properly grieve my uncle, who died during the first month of the Covid pandemic.

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I’m so sorry, Tommy. I really wonder how much stoppered-up grief there is around the world after those months and years.

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I agree, there's a lot of it. Some is manifesting as anger and grievance, some as joy and perseverance... let's bet on joy.

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Very sorry for your loss. How sad to be stuck at home during such a momentous time.

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"When I visit a new place, I look for a bookshop. Keep the receipt inside, and you’ve got a memorable souvenir."

What a great idea!

Very sorry about your loss. I don't have pets anymore for that same reason--it gets to be too much after a point.

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I think you’d really enjoy reading The Last Algonquin by

Theodore Kazimiroff

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Great post! I enjoy seeing your world through your words and images. We have something in common - I read my first Baldwin book last summer - Go Tell It On the Mountain. It’s phenomenal. Do you recommend Giovanni’s Room?

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I haven’t finished it, but I am enjoying it. I’ll let you know.

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